If you’ve raised kids, you too can probably recall times when you tried to impart a lesson that would serve them later in life. It seemed like an insurmountable chore back then, but every now and then, you would see them apply something that they had been taught, and there would be a glimmer of hope.
I’m sure you heard, and became as familiar with and tired of, the same stories and excuses that I heard over and over again.
George started it.
George didn’t get in trouble for it.
If he can do it, why can’t I do it?
How come you don’t get mad at George when he does stuff?
Everybody else is doing it.
It wasn’t my fault.
It was that way when I got here.
Why can’t I have one?
I want it!!!!!
He has two, give me one of his!!!
If he has one, I should have one!!!
It’s incredible how children try to rationalize their (mis)behavior with the (mis)behavior of others, and how they try to outright blame those others when they get caught red handed.
It’s amazing how children see other people do things, watch it explode into catastrophic failure, then try to do the exact same thing, and are then surprised when they, too, fail.
It’s also funny how children believe that are entitled to everything that they see, no matter how the person who owns it obtained it.
As the years went by, I was happy to see them mature and figure out how the real world works, and start taking responsibility for themselves and their actions. They learned a lot of lessons, after all.
You are responsible for your actions. It does not matter what somebody else does, if you break the rules, you have to face the consequences, even if someone else gets away with it.
Just because you want something, does not mean you get to have it.
Just because somebody else has something, does not mean you get to have it.
If you want something, you have to go out and earn it. Nobody is going to give it to you.
It does not matter who started it, all participants in wrong doing are guilty.
It does not matter how it is when you get there, you have to clean up the mess.
I am so proud that my kids learned these lessons, and that I had the experience of teaching them. They have learned to understand that the things that a person wants in life are not free.
They have learned to understand that some people have more than others, and that they are not entitled to have something, just because someone else does.
They have learned to understand that each person is responsible for their own destiny.
They have learned that doing something for somebody does not help them. Helping them do something, does.
They have learned to reach out to help people, but that people must first be willing to help themselves.
They have learned that nobody owes them anything.
They have learned that they have to earn everything they need, and everything they want.
They have learned that if you don’t work, you don’t get paid.
Houses and Food are necessities, but must be earned just as surely as luxury items such as TV’s and Cars.
They have learned that self sufficiency is the only way to live, and that depending on others is no better than addiction.
In other words, They have grown up.